What to do after an argument

by Asma bint Shameem

We all get into quarrels and arguments one time or another.

It could be with our spouse, families or friends… even strangers.

And then we regret it later.

Sometimes we just can’t avoid them....

BUT....

Did you know that there’s something you CAN do AFTER an argument...?

Something that will not only be an expiation for that quarrel but also be a source of rewards for you?

🍃 The Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam said:

“Performing two rak’aat is an expiation for any quarrel.” (hasan by Shaikh al-Albaani in as-Saheehah 1789 and Saheeh Jami 2986)

Subhaan Allaah, how Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala gives us opportunities to get our sins forgiven and earn rewards, even after something like an argument!

Note that this expiation includes all the insults, the bad words, all the name calling...

🍃 Imam as-San’aani said in explanation of this hadeeth:

”That is: a dispute and insult. So it is necessary for the one who argues and insults [another] that he expiates it.

(Two Rak’at): it is as if the two rak’aat expiate the sin of obscenity.

As for the right of the one he insults, then it is not dropped except by his pardoning… ”

[Tanweer Sharh Jami as-Sagheer (5/89)]

🍃 Shaikh Abdur Ra’uf Al-Manawi commented on this hadeeth saying:

“First a person should perform wudhu which diminishes the anger.

Then he should pray the two rak’ah.”

[Faydul Qadeer 3/266]

So the next time you get into an argument with someone....

STOP.

Make wudhu.

Pray two rak’aat.

Your prayer will be an expiation for you.

And don’t forget to ask the other person for forgiveness as well.

Obviously we should avoid unnecessary bickering and arguments at all times and in all circumstances.

But if you do get into one, remember to revive this beautiful Sunnah and earn rewards for yourself.

REMEMBER....

It's NOT about winning the ”argument”.

It's about winning the HEART .

And Allaah knows best